REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE.
Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us.
Between the two stands resistance.
– Steven Pressfield
Does it ever feel like no matter what you try to do in life, something is holding you back, weighing you down and it is killing you trying to work out what the heck it is?
You’ve will-powered till you’re blue in the face and it’s just not funny any more.
You want to express yourself, you want to achieve something, you want to move forwards in your life.
There must be something wrong with you.
You just don’t get it.
Something deep in your bones tells you, there’s more to life. You have so much more potential.
It’s why you have all the ideas, the dreams; it’s why you keep dusting yourself off and getting back up again… but there is this constant heavy feeling – you don’t know how long you can keep pushing back against it.
When you do take a step in the right direction, you almost instantly screw it up or retreat and go into hiding; secretly you feel like a fraud or a thief who has taken something that doesn’t really belong to you.
Your inner chatter goes into overdrive. You punish yourself constantly; you compare yourself to others and tell yourself it was just a fluke and that you can’t keep it up.
Sometimes it even seems like doing the thing you feel called to do is making you feel worse than before you started.
It’s getting exhausing.
But staying where you are or taking a step back* isn’t a fucking option.
*into your previous life / job / mindset
You feel stuck. Empty. Like something is missing. You don’t even know how to bring it up with anyone because deep down you feel ashamed – you feel like there has to be something wrong with you. Everyone else is just getting on with their lives.
Is this what your internal chatter sounds like too?
Ok, good, I’m glad I found you.
It’s fucking exhausting isn’t it?
Let me take this opportunity to interrupt this collosal headfuckery and introduce myself before this inner bullshit sends you mental.
My name’s Marie-Claire.
It isn’t fair, is it? Some part deep inside you tells you you’re here for more, almost like a deep knowing but then another part is fighting, telling you that you can’t. It’s almost like your brain is trying to punish you, make fun of you, and make you suffer.
In my 37 years on this planet, I truly believe that this is the reason why I have spent most of them with depression and anxiety. I know not everyone get as far as that but I do know first hand from my own experience and the people I work with, that this cognitive dissonance – of not living up to your potential and not seeing yourself for who you really are, sets you up for a life of frustration and low level despair – and it’s heartbreaking for those around us who love and care for us.
Low self esteem is like driving through life with the handbrake on.
– Maxwell Maltz
This quote by Maxwell Maltz blew me away when I first read it.
It was like a smack in the face. Someone explained perfectly how I felt I was dealing with my life.
It’s so true – the way we see ourselves and the stories we have about who we are really do fuel how we move forwards in our lives and even the paths we choose to travel on.
You see, I always seemed to have missed the memo about how awesome I am.
It’s like all the great stuff I was doing and had achieved seemed to just bounce right off me.
I just couldn’t accept anything good in my life.
I couldn’t see who I really was.
How kind, how creative, how brave, you name it.
I couldn’t see the impact I had on the people I met.
It would not go in.
It affected the choices I made.
It affected how much I put myself out there.
It affected the success and growth of my business.
It affected how much I would charge.
It affected how I spoke to myself.
It affected how I took care of myself.
It affected what I put up with in my life.
And it completely sucked the joy out of my life.
No wonder I was bloody depressed and anxious the whole bloody time.
It surprised me just how many of us all think and believe the same things about ourselves too.
I decided to do something about it.
THE BIG BOOK OF I’M AWESOME
A Self Esteem & Confidence Experience
Your self-image is the magic key to what you can and can’t accomplish in your life.
It’s what controls your behaviour each and every day – your habits, your actions, your thoughts, your feelings and even your abilities.
The outside (i.e. your life) isn’t going to change until you change the inside (i.e. your thoughts and opinion of yourself).
People will always act, feel and behave in line with their beliefs about themselves and the world around them.
I created The Big Book of I’m Awesome as a tool for myself to help overcome my self-destructive ways; to strengthen my positive identity and prove my thoughts about myself are just opinions – and opinions aren’t necessarily the truth.
I needed a reminder.
A way to prove my old stories, scripts and tape loops wrong.
Something physical, something tactile, and something visual.
It had to be something I created – by myself, for myself.
Right from my heart.
Something I could look at to start each and every day, not as the person I believe I am but as the person I actually really am.
Something I could keep at hand when times felt hard, when I didn’t think I could do it.
And something that I can keep creating and adding to as I go along.
Maybe one day it will stick.
But for now I have this.
And you can have one too!
All we really need is a smack in the chops – a reality check reminding us of our unique personality, talents and accomplishments.
What is this life changing thing you speak of and how do I get one?
It’s a visual, creative, fun and ongoing book project. I show you how to create your own and then you can take it away so that it acutally doubles up as a self care and free time activity too.